tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-75463591307141215962024-03-13T23:09:51.576-07:00Fruit Snacks and Freezer JamUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-61115720655604530022018-07-26T17:19:00.003-07:002018-07-26T17:19:42.968-07:00Curricula 2017-18<div style="text-align: center;">
If you read my last post, I went over our loop schedule and what our days would actually look like. And this post is all about which curriculum goes with each subject.</div>
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Every year I spend a good amount of time researching and praying and trying to find the "perfect" curriculum for us for that year. Sometimes it stays the same from year to year, and other times it changes. Curriculum is a tool, your tool. Don't let it be "in charge." You are in charge. </div>
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These are the core classes</div>
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For<span style="color: #351c75;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><u>Language Arts</u></span></span> we have chosen The Good and The Beautiful. It is our second year using it and I absolutely adore it!!! It is very thorough and advanced, it is a grammar nazi's dream! My mom was an English and Literature teacher, so I am a hopeless grammar nazi. I get giddy almost every lesson!!! It also includes geography, art, and some social studies. For instance; if we are reading a book that is set in Italy, then we will study the geography of Italy, the art of Italy, and even some customs and try some recipes! (The recipe for gnocchi in Level 4 is amazing! Yum!) The spelling and vocabulary words come mainly from the reading. It is all very integrated. That helps it to be engaging and interesting because it matters and connects... it also helps tremendously with retention. Plus this curriculum is so wholesome and uplifting. It is just GOOD. It is a non-denominational Christian point of view. It incorporates values and morals quite heavily. There is no smut. It is beautiful.</div>
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We are also using The Good and The Beautiful for <span style="color: #351c75; font-size: large;"><u>Science and History</u></span>... oh and handwriting and typing. LOL. Everything they have is just so good! I do love it so much! The history is a different set up, again with a Christian point of view. What really sets it apart for me is that it covers the overall view of world history every year. Each year builds on itself. Most curricula do a 4 year rotation; Ancient Studies, Rome, Dark Ages and Renaissance, and then Modern. But by the end of the 4th year, kids have completely forgotten EVERYTHING from Ancient Studies. This way, each time period is covered every year. The depth is added in subsequent years as they repeat the time period and build on what was learned the previous year. It's still fresh in their minds so they can build on it, and it gives them a wonderful overview and ability to see history as a whole, and be better able to see patterns, cause and effect. </div>
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Math is always the most difficult subject for me to find "the right" one. Maybe because I hate it so much. Or maybe because there just isn't much out there that makes me feel like it is engaging and enjoyable, without sacrificing academic quality. That is super important to me. I have been through many curricula in math, and none of them ever fit. Either it was too much, too dry, too drill and kill... or it was light and airy fairy, going in circles and never really getting anywhere. I think we have finally hit on the perfect middle ground for us! *knock on wood* </div>
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For<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #351c75;"> <span style="font-size: large;"><u>Math</u></span></span></span> we are using Mathematical Reasoning by The Critical Thinking Company. It is excellent! It is fun and engaging. It focuses on true understanding of concepts, and why they work the way they do. It is full of games, puzzles, logic puzzles, even pages where the answers to the problems gives you the answer to a joke. It is so fun and engaging that my kids actually ask to do extra pages! That is a full fledged miracle in our house! And it is challenging and thorough. It is the first math curriculum which my very mathematically minded husband has actually liked. He is very impressed with how it's laid out and how it teaches them to reason and understand concepts. He feels it's an excellent foundation for moving into the higher maths, which he did all of and I did none. LOL. </div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">Another</span> class we do is learning about the <span style="color: #351c75; font-size: large;"><u>Constitution</u></span>. The Constitution is extremely important to me. Original intent is vital to understand. I know everyone hates political talk, but I have very strong feelings on the matter. My children will be taught correct principles and be able to defend their freedoms. We are using 28 Principles of Freedom to study it this year. </div>
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Then another subject that is very dear to my heart... <span style="color: #351c75; font-size: large;"><u>Logic and Rhetoric</u></span>, otherwise known as Critical Thinking. This is just an introductory course for a 6th grader. We will study more in depth in later years. I think that being able to understand an argument, discern truthfulness of claims, and just generally be able to think clearly is one of the most important skills that anyone can have these days. There is so much falsehood, so much stupidity... too many people base their opinions on sound bites and memes. Giving your children the ability to think and reason will be one of the best gifts you can give them. The world is crazy!!! We are using The Basics of Critical Thinking by The Critical Thinking Company.</div>
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We are also going to learn <span style="color: #351c75; font-size: large;"><u>Spanish</u></span> this year. I haven't taken any Spanish since high school so I need help. We are trying out an online option called Calico Spanish. It's an immersion style option, which is what I was looking for. Basically you watch a video as a family once a day and learn the language together. There are also worksheets you can print off and posters you can buy. I don't have any of it yet because it's a monthly subscription fee and we aren't starting for another month yet, but you can goo.gle it if you're interested. </div>
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Here are some of our electives</div>
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For the 6th grader, lots of logic puzzles and brain teasers. Clearly this is an important area to me. </div>
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For the 6 year old, some handwriting and scripture dictation, some logic puzzles and brain teasers, and a "game" that helps you to learn parts of speech. </div>
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I don't know that this is all interesting to anyone else, but I want to keep it to look back on. </div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-65186654026091902812018-07-25T09:01:00.002-07:002018-07-25T09:07:29.175-07:00Juggling Health and Homeschool<div style="text-align: center;">
We will be starting school this year in the middle of August. </div>
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That's so soon! Where did my summer go? </div>
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But honestly, my kids are so much happier with that little bit of structure, even if they do think it makes them miserable. They get along so much better and have much better attitudes when we start the day with school and chores. So, while I do thoroughly enjoy summer break, and part of me never wants it to end, I know that life will get better, and our home will be full of more harmony and less fighting... so I'm also really looking forward to starting.</div>
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This is my schedule for the year.</div>
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This one is mine. To keep everyone on track.</div>
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This is for the 11 year old boy.</div>
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This is for the 6 year old girl.</div>
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Let me explain. I have autoimmune diseases and I have to plan for it. Some people build endurance by maxing out every day. Eventually doing more will make you stronger. But that's totally NOT true with autoimmune. My health/strength/energy is more like a bank account. If I spend it all, it's gone. More doesn't just magically appear. I'm not earning interest on my energy and health. LOL. If I do too much it's like bouncing a check. I have to claw my way back out again. With all sorts of weird penalties coming out of nowhere to keep me in the hole. I can't afford to max out. </div>
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So every day I have to decide how much I have to give without maxing out. I have my schedule set up to reflect that. It's set up by categories of importance. Set priorities and get most important things done first so you don't freak out if you have to stop and miss something that day. </div>
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No matter how sick I am, we will always do the "Always" category. Hence the name. It is quite rare for me to be this sick, but I have to plan for it, so that I don't feel pressured to push through, which sabotages my health for days, and makes my kids need to go to therapy because I'm so grumpy. This is giving myself permission to take a sick day.</div>
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If I'm feeling pretty normal, but not awesome, then we do the core classes which are listed under "Daily." We do school 5 days per week, and all 4 of these classes are done every day that we do school. (Also, note that our Language Arts is an integrated curriculum which includes Geography, Social Studies, Art, Spelling, Grammar, Reading, Writing, etc.) All of these take one on one instruction with each child. </div>
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Loop 1 is the next most important, not necessarily "core classes," but the most important of the electives we're studying this year. So if I'm feeling pretty good, then after the Daily category, we do ONE item from Loop 1, whichever item is "next." Basically it's set up to be 5 days a week as well, but if I miss a day due to sickness or vacation or anything else, we just do the next thing because nothing is tied to a day of the week. So if last time we did L1, we did a 28 Principles (Constitution) lesson, then today we will do a Science lesson no matter how many days we took off in between. Make sense? These are all taught "family style." Everyone together. We almost always get done with Loop 1. </div>
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Loop 2 is full of the more fun and independent electives, those which could be skipped without too much guilt when I'm not feeling up to it, but that I still want to make sure get done regularly. Again, just one item from L2 per day and whatever is "next" on the list. </div>
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When we get done with all of this then we can do chores, run errands, read books, and maybe get some screen time if there is time and attitudes are respectful. </div>
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The biggest thing I still need to figure out for this year is what to do with my 2 year old while we do school. He is the most energetic, determined, beautiful toddler that ever existed. He can climb anything, and I mean anything. And when he falls and gets hurt, he doesn't much care. It just makes him want to do it again to "master" the thing. He can't be distracted. Rather, he will let you think you've successfully distracted him, but as soon as you look the other way he sprints back to what you thought he'd forgotten and does it anyway. Quoting Mad Eye Moody, he requires "Constant Vigilance!" I need ideas for some busy boxes or something to distract him for longer periods of time... but things that don't make a giant mess for me because I will just never do that to myself. So sand and water based ideas are not for us. In fact, it kills me to let him use play doh. LOL. Anyone have awesome ideas on activities for him during school? He doesn't want to join us. He mainly wants to rip papers and break pencils.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-88130896495198356422018-07-11T17:43:00.000-07:002018-07-11T17:43:01.506-07:00Anxious Organizing<div style="text-align: center;">
I have a problem.</div>
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I love to organize and set a schedule and get everything looking like it will work perfectly.</div>
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Okay, so I don't love organizing everything. I actually struggle to keep the house looking presentable. But school schedules and supplies and checklists? Oh yeah, all day long baby!</div>
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I guess I think that if I can get it all laid out "perfectly," whatever that is, then the whole year will run smoothly and we'll never miss a lesson and never get sick and never argue. And yeah, that always works. Ha!</div>
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Still, the drive to do it every year kicks in and I can't resist it. I mean, it certainly can't hurt to get organized... can it?</div>
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The curriculum I use it very open and go, so I don't actually need to do any of this, but I just can't help myself. </div>
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This year I am trying a "loop schedule" for our electives. The core classes will be every day. The electives will cycle through. This is a new concept to me, and it's so simple and "duh" that after 5 years of homeschooling, I feel dumb to not have thought of it on my own.. but I actually got it from a book.</div>
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A fabulous book!!! It's called, "Teaching From Rest" by Sarah Mackenzie.</div>
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Basically you just do the next thing next. I used to say Subject A is always on Mondays, B on Tuesdays, C on Wednesdays, etc. But without fail, one of those days would have constant interruptions and one of those subjects would get so far behind that we'd give up on it before the end of the year... or worse, try to force our way through and get it done, but be so burned out that we hated even looking at the subject ever again. </div>
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With a loop schedule, it's like you put them in a pile, and they aren't assigned to a day, they're assigned to go in order. So if you do Subject A on Monday, but Tuesday is a pukefest, and Wednesday you still want to Clorox every surface, then on Thursday (or whenever you finally feel back up to it) you just pick up the next subject, in this case Subject B. Just do the next thing next. So simple and brilliant! </div>
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I have 2 loops for each child. One that is much more formal education, real curriculum like Science and History. And the second loop is for more fun type subjects, or shorter subjects like handwriting and logic puzzles. </div>
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And now I'm trying to figure out a way to track it and keep track of it so that I don't get all mixed up and crazy. Not the individual lessons, but "which subject are we on again?" Oy. I almost need to write them on the whiteboard every week and erase as we go. LOL. And I might just do that.</div>
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Anyway, what do you do to get organized and set before starting school for the year? </div>
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How do you find that peace that you are really "ready" already?</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-62493509974347355332018-07-02T12:58:00.001-07:002018-07-02T12:58:53.976-07:00Filling Your Bucket<div style="text-align: center;">
So first of all, I think I'm back? </div>
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I'm not all the way sure yet, but I'm feeling the urge to write here more frequently so maybe. But I do think that I will be more focused on homeschooling than I will be on infertility... although I reserve the right to talk about both of them... or something else entirely. Just whatever pops into my brain.</div>
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Those of you who knew me before as an infertility blogger... hello! 😃 I now have 3 miraculous children!!! All of them were complete miracles and I am so grateful! I am still really hoping to maybe somehow have more... but I'm now 42, and have been fighting infertility and loss for way too long... so I guess... well I mean Sarah had Isaac in her 90's so there could be hope still.</div>
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I think that I homeschool now partially because of how difficult it was to get my children. I can't even imagine handing them over for 8 hours a day to someone else to teach them and raise them. I am basically Hermione, minus the hair, so we do quite a lot of schooling and my expectations for them are high. But I love it so much! It has been the biggest blessing for my family.</div>
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To have my children home.</div>
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To be their primary influence.</div>
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To be "in charge" of everything from the curriculum we choose to the days we take off.</div>
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To have our relationships blossom with the extra care we are able to give them.</div>
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I love everything about it.</div>
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Well, almost everything. I've been homeschooling for 5 years now. And I'm hitting a burn out. It's a little scary. I've never burned out before. It's summer vacation, so it's good timing, but I am a little worried how I'll get the old fire back in time to start up in the fall. Right now, even thinking about doing lesson plans has me wanting to crawl back in bed and hide. Which is dumb because the curriculum I use is AMAZING and is totally open and go, so I don't even have to make up lesson plans anymore. </div>
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I think I just have nothing left in my own bucket. You know the saying about how you can't give water to anyone else if your own bucket is empty... something like that anyway. Well, I'm just not sure how to fill mine anymore. Everything that I love to do involves my family. I do love to do homeschool. It's quite a passion and on its own used to fill my bucket just by doing it. So I'm wondering if I need to find something that's "just for me" to fill myself up? Or is that just a mirage? I would like to be able to pee by myself again at some point. </div>
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So please share. I need ideas. </div>
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What do you do to recharge your batteries? What's your best self care strategy? </div>
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What do you do to fill your bucket?</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-67847854609813593532015-02-24T11:59:00.003-08:002015-02-24T11:59:53.180-08:00Well That Was Strange<div style="text-align: center;">
I have basically stopped using this blog, and removed almost all of my old posts... but they were still saved in memory of the blog. A few of them I like to refer back to periodically, but it was a pain sifting through all the other unpublished junk to find them. So I just decided to re-publish them.</div>
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I thought they'd magically reappear in the correct order, and still have the original dates on them. LOL. I guess not! So they're all up front, out of order, and way out of date.</div>
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I don't think I'm blogging again yet, but I wanted to have them out there where I could find them more easily. Huh. Weird to see them like that.</div>
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Anyway, don't be confused. These are all old posts, the most recent being almost 3 years old... and spanning back to about 6 years ago.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-3359689503355985652015-02-24T11:47:00.000-08:002015-02-24T11:47:03.447-08:00Answers and Encouragement<div align="center">
So this post will depart a bit from my usual. Feel free to read it, or not. I'm really just documenting it because this is the closest thing I have to a journal, and I don't want to forget. Might be totally boring for anyone else. And that's okay. :)</div>
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Life has been really really difficult for the last few years. Really difficult. You all know some of it, what with miscarriage, dad's cancer and death, etc. But there are a few, very large and painful problems which I don't feel free to share with people... and especially not on the freaking internet for the whole crappin world. Haha. But I think we're all that way, right? Some things are just too private. Anyway, I am NOT saying that I haven't been blessed... because I have been blessed tremendously... more than I expected or deserved to be. But that doesn't mean that my challenges aren't still... well challenging. And things have been getting worse, or at least coming to a head. (What a mental picture, eh? I think of a giant white head getting ready to pop all over my life.) I'm trying my very best to compartmentalize my life... to be happy for the happy things, and sad for the sad things... and not to let them spill over into all aspects of my life... because then I'd have to poke out my eyes and run screaming from the room. haha. I don't know if this is the BEST way to deal with problems, but it's a good coping skill for me now and keeps me sane and strong enough to keep going. It does have a big down side of shutting me down emotionally, because I just can't stand to face all of it all the time. But I figure that one day I'll just have a large nervous breakdown to make up for it, right? ;)</div>
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Last night was a bad night. I was so discouraged and overwhelmed and just plain old tired... more than tired... I was weary... physically emotionally and spiritually... just weary. I tried to pray about it, but I couldn't manaage much more than to just say "I'm too tired to do this anymore. I'm just so tired." I didn't even ask for anything or thank for anything... I just said I was tired and got into bed, expecting things to just remain as they were/are. But God doesn't give us challenges for us to change the challenge... He gives us challenges to change OURSELVES. My challenges remain this morning, but I am a different person facing them... and I hope it lasts. </div>
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I crawled into bed last night and opened a little book by Marjorie Hinckley, who is just the sweetest, most positive and uplifting lady ever. At first the things she said made me feel even more isolated. Her cheerfulness and unquenchable postivity seemed to have no place in my dark life last night. But then she made a few points that struck me... they struck me HARD. First she reminded me that "all have not every gift given unto them" and that I needed to stop comparing myself, my strengths weaknesses and gifts, with others... even with hers, as I shamefully coveted her cheerfulness. God knows who we are and He doesn't need or want me to be anyone but who I am... the BEST me I can be, but still just me... not someone else.</div>
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Next, and more profound for me, she talked about Esther. I love Esther, but then, who doesn't? She said that in our lives and challenges, instead of saying "is this what my life is going to be?" we should instead remember Mordecai's question... "Who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?" ... The thought that the challenges I'm facing might be an assignment from God made me stop in my tracks.... She continues, "Perhaps what you are doing, whatever it is or however humble your offering, could be something that no one else could do." I think I read that line about 50 times, not kidding. I just cried and read it over and over. "However humble your offering" and my offering right now is very weak and humble, but it's enough. Just like bringing only a few loaves and fishes to feed a multitude, God will make my offering be enough... though my little plastic teaspoon isn't nearly enough to move this great mountain, yet God has promised that mountains WILL BE moved, so I keep digging.... IF this is an assignment from God, then a way WILL BE found to accomplish it. "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." "Be not weary in well doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great." And "by small and simple things are great things brought to pass." </div>
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So if this is what my assignment in life is, then I'd better get to it and stop complaining. If God is telling me to do something, then He will provide a way for me to do it, even if it's one teaspoon at a time... it will still get done. I'm not all that different this morning, but I do feel a sense of purpose again. I was going through the motions of working through things, but was too discouraged to believe that it would make any difference. Now I feel like MY efforts might be too small to notice, but they are the small and simple things, the few loaves and fishes, which are my necessary contribution, my little offering out of which God will make a mighty miracle. Some day, it will be enough. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-16808948948468672682015-02-24T11:46:00.000-08:002015-02-24T11:46:24.204-08:00Thoughts on Infertility... and Trials<div align="center">
I've been thinking a lot about infertility the last few weeks. It probably seems strange to think about it during pregnancy. I guess it's because I'll turn 35 on Saturday and that's an ominous age for fertility. I really want more children, but will be grateful for whatever the Lord sees fit to give me. </div>
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I remember when I got pregnant with our first miracle baby, S. I thought I had "beaten" infertility. I guess I thought that once my womb had opened up and successfully delivered a baby, that was the end of all my troubles. *little laugh* That was as far ahead as I could see, just up to delivery. </div>
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So now that he is a couple WEEKS shy of being 4 years old, and I am a few DAYS shy of being 35... and I am FINALLY pregnant with my second child... I am grateful and humbled and overwhelmed. But I also have no delusion that this is the end of my infertility road. I want more children, so I will continue to struggle with infertility until the Lord directs my heart in another direction... or until the doctor forcibly removes my girly parts. Haha.</div>
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I have a good friend who also struggles with IF (infertility)... actually I have several, but I'm just talking about one here.... she already has 2 children, but she worked long and hard to get them... and she desperately wants more.... and of course the road of infertility is long and hard REGARDLESS of whether or not you've had any children previously. *I realize that's almost taboo to say inside of IF culture... it seems that most IFers feel how I did when I was pregnant with my first child... once you've had a child then you're out of the club. Which I understand, because I was once there and remember how I felt and thought... but which also leaves you more alone and without a support net as you struggle on for several more years.* Anyway, I can relate so much to my friend and can see myself *back* in her shoes in just another year. I see her often and ALWAYS my heart breaks for her silent sorrows. A sorrow that I still share, even though I'm pregnant right now. Next year I'll be back to trying again, temping, 2ww-ing, hoping for the ever illusive BFP.</div>
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I have another friend who has no problems with IF. She said to me the other day, "I wish I could give you some of my fertililty." *so cute* But I know that the Lord knows just who He wants each of us to be. He tries us with those things that will stretch us *individually* in just the right way to make us into who He wants us to be. I know there are MANY valuable lessons I've learned through my IF journey. Life is never the same after IF..... IF changes you for life... but so do many other things.</div>
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Everyone has hard struggles, and that's how it's supposed to be. I'm glad that IF has changed me, otherwise the struggle would've been in vain. God INTENDED for me to be changed by IF. God knows what I need in order to grow into the ME that He desires. IF is just another form of the refiners fire. And I am eternally grateful that He gave me not only IF, and not only children, but also other women... Sisters... who also have to endure the same challenges so that we have someone to lean on who understands. And I think that's part of the lesson too. He wants us to give, to receive, and to strengthen one another. None of us can make it alone. Sisters, we need each other. </div>
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Afterall, God is not only just refining us as individuals, but as a FAMILY. He expects us to turn to one another, and to cling to one another during our refining fire... it is ONLY in that way that He will be able to forge us together... to make us ONE... to make us into His Family. The strongest marriages, the strongest friendships, the strongest families... are NOT those who have few problems ... they are the ones who have braved the heat of the fire and clung together... they are Welded together by the power of God. If I have learned anything through this last year of miscarriage, caring for a dying parent, and holding his hand as he passed into the arms of God... I have learned that we NEED eachother..... Don't be afraid to reach out..... to comfort or to BE comforted. God wants it this way.</div>
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I am grateful for each of you who has strengthened and bouyed me up on this long journey. I wish to be able to do the same for you. Know that I think of you and pray for you. Whether you are struggling with IF or not... each of us has challenges. Job stress, family illness, death, financial woes, marital problems..... they are the fire. I pray for you, and would like to give you a glass of cool water. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-90359140574053280462015-02-24T11:45:00.001-08:002015-02-24T11:45:49.609-08:00I Remember Me<div align="center">
It's been a rough year or so. I've almost lost myself completely. I've been told that I've "lost the sparkle" in my eye and other such things. But I *think* I'm on my way back up. I'm starting to recognize myself again. Starting to laugh again. Able to smile more again. And I've started using sarcasm again, although it's been so long since I've done it no one knows how to take it. Haha. I'm getting back to the me that I know. I won't lie, I'm not quite there yet, but there are some hopeful signs. :)</div>
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Most notably, this pregnancy. I have been terrified and tight fisted over it; just sure I would have another miscarriage if I decided to relax and enjoy it. As if somehow my suffering and worrying would *help* my pregnancy? CRAZY! In the last week or so... about the time I got all that fabric... I have been able to let go of that craziness. I am pregnant now. I think it's gonna happen. And even if it doesn't, refusing to feel my joy right now won't take away the pain of losing it later. What's the old saying? "Worry doesn't empty tomorrow of its troubles, it robs today of its joy." Or something like that. So POO ON YOU! to infertility and miscarriage! I am pregnant now, and I am going to revel in it and be ecstatic and giddy, and feel like a "normal" pregnant lady! This pregnancy is a gift from God, and I am going to enjoy every second of it.</div>
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And I'm going to opt for the repeat C-section. Two things really influenced me. First when I told my husband about it, I got all weepy and said something like "what's wrong with me? I can't get pregnant, then I can't stay pregnant, and when it's time to labor I can't get the thing out?" He said "You know, back in the day they had a name for women like you." I braced for the worst, just sure that some awful word like "sterile" was going to escape his lips. But he surprised me when he simply said "Dead." Haha. He said that I should be grateful there's modern medicine to help me get my children here... you know without me dying. Haha. Such a simple answer, but true. And the other reason is that I found out that if you opt for trying a vaginal delivery after c-section, they generally won't let you have an epidural. WHAT!!! Deciding to not have an epidural during labor is tantamount to deciding against novicaine during a root canal. Sure you "could" do it and prove you're tough, but WTH? *disclaimer, if your labor is only a couple of hours then it's probably not so bad, but my 28 hours of labor was a special kind of hell until I got that blessed blessed needle.*</div>
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Also, I've been invited to 2 seperate girls nights out this week! Honestly this past year has been a bit of a blur, so I may have been invited to others and have totally spaced them or just felt too emotionally frail to parade my crying arse through the world. But I am actually excited to go to these! It's so strange to actually WANT the company of other people. The first one is a dinner with a bunch of friends from high school. That should be a rip roaring good time of laughter and food. :) The second is a bunch of girls from church... most of whom I don't know because they are new... or at least are new in the past year and I haven't been able to get to know anyone. I guess with all the trauma, I just buckled down and did the basics to survive. I didn't have any extra energy or emotion for anyone or anything. I was vaguely aware of all these beautiful young girls moving in around me and thought it was nice in an abstract way. But I'm amazed that one of them actually thought of me to invite me. I think I've spoken to her one time.... for 2 seconds. Excited to get to know some new people and start living life again.... though I will be honest and say that it also scares the crap out of me. What if I'm not really ready, and someone asks me something about dad or the pregnancy and I start freakin crying in the middle of scrabble or something? Or what if I go and start to feel out of place with people who can laugh freely, and withdraw and don't know how to talk to "normal" people anymore? *sigh* Pushing those gnawing doubts out of my mind, I am very excited to start putting myself out there and trying again. Taking it slow, but still starting out. :)</div>
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And just a little update. Zofran FOR SURE gives me migraines. Bad migraines. I've been down all weekend with a monster migraine, and am not quite over it yet. So I'm done with that. But I think I'll try the Phenergen they gave me. It's supposed to make me tired, but that's better than puking. Although, no matter what I do, I almost always puke when I brush my teeth. It's the grossest thing ever. So bad that I've started only brushing my teeth in the morning. I know, gross. But have you ever had minty fresh puke breath? It's not much better. And I hate needing to clear my throat because puke got all caught in my vocal cords. GROSS. So I brush in the morning and then chew gum if I have to be in public. Hopefully it hides all signs of vomit and bad breath. If not, don't tell me, just don't stand so close. :)</div>
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Well, it was a long hard road, but it's over. Dad passed away last night surrounded by his family. He took his last breath at about 9:15pm on Wednesday night. Funeral set for next Wednesday.</div>
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So today I am thankful for how difficult this song is to sing. :) I'm supposed to sing at church on Sunday... and yesterday they changed the song I'm singing... and the new one is HARD!!! At least, it's hard if you only have a couple days to learn it and have up to performance standard. I'm SO struggling with this. Don't want to suck. But I am grateful that this song is so hard, because it's making me practice A LOT. Which is good because of 2 things... #1, it's very cathartic to bellow loud high notes all day, even if my dog is starting to howl along. And #2, it is an AMAZING song and just what I needed right now. Feeling like I should share the words....</div>
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Amazing because I've REALLY been struggling lately to know what to pray for. So many things, so many thoughts, so many angles. I don't want to push God for what I want, even though I want it SO much. I want to make sure that I'm praying for what He wants me to pray for. And THIS is a beautiful prayer. </div>
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So, you know how you're supposed to take your temperature FIRST thing in the morning, BEFORE even getting out of bed?..... Do you think it still counts if you're reaching for the thermometer in the dark, and accidentally fall out of bed instead? :) Just curious. </div>
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My journey this year is kind of like a roller coaster ride. Ups, downs, and a few jerks. :) It is strange because I used to know who I was...or where I belonged. You know... I am a woman with infertility. I am a Christian. I am a mother. I am a wife.... I am a daughter taking care of her dying father. I am a sibling trying really hard to hold the family together through all this stress. I am on Prozac. I am overwhelmed. I am wavering. I am blessed. I am given strength to overcome.....</div>
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The labels just got to be more and more specific. I love going to church, and I love my friends... but few of them struggle with infertility and so they don't understand the pain. I found some other infertiles and initially I felt SO loved and understood in the world of infertility. Then other trauma in life happened and I felt like I didn't quite "belong" there anymore. I started going to a group therapy session and felt so AMAZINGLY loved and understood for a few weeks... but then dad was told he was terminal and that just didn't fit into the "discussion" at therapy. So I found some friends who were dealing with the world of taking care of dying loved ones and I felt so understood... for a while. There are a few other things. But as each of them add up, I feel kind of like a frog in biology class. Each group can inspect a different part of myself, but no one cared to look at me as a whole person.... or perhaps I don't know how to open up all of it to everyone. But regardless of the reason... I'm feeling quite as though I just don't belong anywhere. Everyone understands a little, but no one really gets it all. And I suppose that's okay. </div>
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So back to the rollercoaster. I think that I shouldn't ever post in the middle of a crisis. Like last night, I was so tempted to post...because this is really the only place where I can put it all out there. But I held back, and I'm glad. I was frantic last night.. Dad couldn't stop bleeding, and his capillaries were bursting spontaneously.... his coumadin was WAY too high, and there was nothing for us to do except WAIT. Waiting is interminable. I think that the doctors for hospice could have done SOMETHING, but they didn't want to. Which is really hard for me. I KNOW that something can be done, and I hate just waiting and watching....wondering if tonight is the night that dad will actually pass into the arms of the Savior.</div>
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And with all that going on, you would THINK that I would dream about it, right? Well, a little. I had a few dream moments about it... But mainly... I only dream about babies. How is that fair? EVERY night I dream that I'm pregnant, or that I'm giving birth, or that I'm having another miscarriage, or that my newborn baby shrivels up into a "good n plenty" and then dies.... that one was SO weird. But seriously EVERY night. So every morning I wake up a little sad and have to shake myself mentally. </div>
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Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary. I LOVE my husband. Affectionately known (on this blog) as Jonny Von. Hahaha. I can't believe how quickly the years go by. But I'm glad he's by my side. We were going to go out and celebrate, but I currently have the plague. I actually lost my voice entirely this morning. Gah. If you don't know, I'm a big mouth, loud, and I sing a lot. So losing my voice is like the WORST punishment ever. :) I thought maybe he would stay home from work today... just to bask in the silence and get in the last word. :) Haha. Anyway, I think we'll have to postpone our celebration until I'm able to swallow more than just hot tea and chicken soup. </div>
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So I'm feeling unusually blessed today. Not that things aren't still hard. But it is strange that in the middle of all of this difficulty... there is great peace. I am so grateful to know the truths of the gospel. But even more than that, there is a feeling in my home that has never been here before. I think with my dad being here during his last days on earth, and us taking care of him and helping him with his process of being "born" on the other side.... my house feels almost... holy. I feel it is a very sacred place right now. I am grateful for that Spirit in my home.</div>
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And I am SO grateful to the women in my church. If you don't know, I'm LDS/Mormon. The women in our church belong to Relief Society. It is wonderful. We all pull together and help to provide relief to anyone who needs it. I've never really been much on the receiving end before. Honestly, I feel kinda stupid about it.... but oh so grateful. A dear sweet RS President came over and she told me that no one could help with the pain or the process, "but" she said "we CAN vacuum your floor. We CAN scrub your toilet. We can bring you meals." I quickly said that I didn't need any of that. I would feel simply awful to have the women in my church, my friends, come in and clean my house and cook my meals when I am perfectly capable of doing it myself. She put her hand on mine and said very sweetly, "I'm not asking you IF we can do it... I am asking you WHEN." She had a calendar with her and said "We ARE coming once a week to clean and twice a week we WILL bring a meal. Which days do you prefer?" I sputtered something else and she said "You know how to give, but you need to learn how to receive." I just sat and cried. I hate receiving. I would much rather give. Today is the first meal that someone else will be bringing in, and I can't tell you how much I need that little bit of a break right now. It's all that's kept me going the last few days. I keep thinking, "Just a little longer and someone else will be cooking dinner." </div>
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Mom has injured her knee and is using a walker. Dad is reacting poorly to his meds and is losing some mental function already... hopefully it comes back. Plus I have one brother here now with his 2 year old. It has been a long, hard week for me... trying to take care of everyone else, all of their needs. It has been rewarding beyond measure... I'm not complaining.... I wouldn't have it any other way. Still, just knowing that someone ELSE is helping means a lot to me mentally. I still feel a bit stupid and quite guilty to allow others to do this.... but I am so grateful for it that today I could just sit down and cry about it.</div>
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I am so tired. So sore.... and SO nauseated! And what a horrible trick right now. I'm nauseated enough to think "maybe" I'm pregnant. Just like every month I fight thinking it. But I'm really really trying not to puke... it fills me with equal measures of despair and hope. I want more children SO badly. I want to believe I could be pregnant. But the long hard lessons of years of infertility treatments keep smacking "sense" back into me. I'm only 11 dpo, it's a bit early for nausea, and it's probably just my crazy hormones over reacting to all the stress. I know that's much more likely... but it isn't the answer that I want and I just can't shut down my hope. Where is the off button? But really.... maybe this time??? (*Please Please Please*)</div>
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So I've had a strange couple of days. Remember how I puked on Sunday at church? Yeah, well I guess I had a gall bladder stone the size of a marble. So I kept feeling icky, but Thursday afternoon I exploded into pain... pain that just kept on getting worse. I had a doctor's appt that evening, but decided I couldn't wait for it and just went to the ER. Good thing too because, as I said, it was a gall stone so the doc's office couldn't have done much for me... except send me to the hospital. </div>
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So even though the whole thing sucked.... and was PAINFUL.... like being in labor painful.... I feel very blessed at how it all worked out. Miraculous I would call it. </div>
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So the doc at the ER said I was okay to wait for surgery for a day or two and he spoke with a surgeon on the phone to give him a head's up. The surgeon said he probably couldn't do the surgery until next week sometime, but that he wanted to at least see me in the office "tomorrow" (Friday). So they sent me home with a surgeon's phone number, pain pills, and anti-nausea pills. Also, they told me that the pain and nausea would probably go away a little and come back, over and over until we just got the stupid gall bladder taken out all the way. So I was a little stressed to have to wait for surgery because, the pain was awful and puking is no fun. Also, next week my husband has finals.... including his final in Organic Chemistry... so his week is SHOT. And I have some really good friends coming to stay with us for most of next week. I haven't seen them in a really long time and they're coming up from many thousands of miles away. Could you imagine "It's so good to see you, but I'm off to surgery, go ahead and watch TV if you want." The miracle in all of this is how it all worked out so that I could have surgery on Friday (yesterday). It was like there were all these obstacles, seen and unseen, and God was kind enough to just move them for me. Like David said before fighting Goliath "It is not my fight but the Lord's." </div>
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So the first blessing, strange as it may sound, is that I woke up puking on Friday. If I hadn't been so violently sick, I would have definitely eaten so I could've taken my pain medication. And if you eat, you can't have surgery. So my first blessing came in the form of kneeling on the bathroom floor all morning. </div>
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Then when I called to see what time I could get an appt with the surgeon, they said "come in right now and don't eat anything." Hooray! So, next miracle is that we found the office without getting lost because it's a hard one to find. Then we were blessed to not have to wait at all to see the doctor. Literally, no waiting. The surgeon was very good, and very friendly and funny. He said that since I was still symptomatic that he felt I needed to have surgery that day, but his schedule was so full he thought it wouldn't be until the evening. So don't eat anything all day, and don't take any pain pills. Ugh. </div>
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But the next miracle is that as we were leaving his office he ran to catch us and said he had a cancellation and at the same time the surgery center had a last minute cancellation so I could go have surgery "right now." So I went up and checked in at surgery and got right in again. They even gave me some IV nausea meds, morphine for pain, and basic fluids while I was waiting. Hooray!</div>
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There were many other "little" blessings that were big to me, because they enabled my friends and family to be able to help me without having to miss their own important events that day. But possibly the best miracle of all is that my sister found a fat free chocolate cookie.... Snackwell's devils food cookies. SO YUMMY! And right after gall bladder surgery you're not supposed to eat any fat for a while. They are saving my life! </div>
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Anyway that's a long and rambling story and possibly quite boring. :) But I'm on heavy narcotic pain meds and a little out of it. So I hope it makes sense. I feel very blessed. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-90573454672251292712015-02-24T11:42:00.000-08:002015-02-24T11:42:40.890-08:00Feeling grateful<div align="center">
So freezer jam season is starting... Yay! I absolutely LOVE freezer jam! Strawberries have been on sale for a few days now, and I've made no less than 4 batches of jam so far! Yummy yummy yummy. :) Seriously, I can't get enough of the stuff. Freezer jam is one of the simple, every day miracles that we take for granted... can you imagine life back in the dark ages? No lights, no electricity, no PLUMBING, practically no medicine, the plague, and no freezer jam. How blessed are we to live in the days of clean water, penecillin, and freezer jam! And if you think I'm joking, then you don't know me well enough. :) Oooh, and epidurals, don't forget epidurals. I completely believe that whoever invented the epidural should be granted sainthood and guaranteed a seat in heaven. Think of all the pain and suffering that one thing has removed from the world. I know... I was in labor for 28 hours and had to have 2 of them. Best thing in the world, the epidural. :) </div>
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So today I'm feeling grateful to live in the age of technology and clean water. I mean, I like making home made bread when I get a wild hair, but growing your own wheat and grinding it by hand, and then baking it every day just to survive? No thank you. I love the super market. I love that I can stop at a fast food chain if I'm just too tired to cook. I love that I can turn up the heater on a cold and dreary day, such as today. I am grateful that women have rights and are treated as equals. That we can vote and that we live in a free country. And where would we be without Spongebob? I mean, come on! The entire society might collapse without that little yellow guy. Although, if I could, I would go back and remove all video games. </div>
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Life might be difficult today, but it is so easy compared to what was. Any time I think life is hard, I can almost hear my ancestors mocking me. And don't think that they wouldn't. If they are indeed related to me, then they have quite a proclivity to mock and use sarcasm. I'm spoiled rotten and grateful for it. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-75810209753610680012013-02-26T20:58:00.001-08:002013-02-26T21:49:44.288-08:00Quick and Messy Lasagna with Bechamel Sauce<div style="text-align: center;">
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I love lasagna, I mean who doesn't right? But it takes so much time to make it that I hardly ever do it. But then I saw good ole Rach.el R.ay do this trick and it changed my lasagna eating life. All the yum with half the work.</div>
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If you do it quick and dirty, with just browned meat and canned sauce... you could easily pull it all together in about a half hour for a quick weekday dinner. But if you take the time to make a nicer sauce, like mine below, it will take a bit longer and taste a lot better. Still, from start to finish, I had dinner on the table in under an hour.</div>
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You could use pretty much any recipe for lasagna and then use this method and it would work nicely, but this is my recipe, adapted to this method... and I must say that my own recipe is quite good. :) </div>
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Basically, you take the lasagna noodles and break them up into pieces before you boil them. I try to break each piece about 4 times. You'll get all different shapes and sizes, and that's great! So you boil them according to the instructions on the package, plus 1 minute. Then drain, and add to your meat sauce.</div>
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Then stir to coat them all and get it evenly distributed.</div>
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Put half of it in a cake pan (9x13) and then top it with some cottage cheese (or ricotta if you're fancy) and a sprinkle of dry parsley.</div>
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Then put the rest of the noodles on top of the cottage cheese.</div>
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Top that off with the bechamel sauce (or grated cheese if you prefer), and a sprinkle of grated parmesan, and stick in your oven on 350 for about 25 minutes.</div>
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The only drawback is that I can't get a "clean slice" to make a nice picture. It's "messy" lasagna, remember? </div>
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Now if you want my own recipe, which you totally should because it's awesome, here it is.</div>
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So first, you need to take a red bell pepper and get it roasting in the oven. Put it in a pie tin about 6 inches below the top heating element and set your oven to "high broil." Keep it in there until most of the skin has turned black, about 10-15 minutes.</div>
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Now it's time to make your meat sauce. I believe in using ground sausage instead of ground beef. Trust me, it's so much better. </div>
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You brown that up with some finely chopped veggies... I mean finely chopped. You want the taste in your sauce, but you don't want to have visible pieces of veggie.</div>
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One onion, one carrot (I grate that), one stalk of celery. Put all of that in with the raw sausage and cook it until the sausage is brown and crumbly.</div>
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Cook it at a boil, stirring often, until pretty much all of the broth disappears, about 10 minutes. </div>
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Once the broth has reduced down to nothing, add 48 ounces of canned spaghetti sauce,1 TBS of vinegar, 2 TBS of dried oregano, and some fresh basil. I've stopped using fresh basil during the winter, and I get this stuff instead because it lasts longer in my fridge.</div>
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Then stir and let it simmer while you make the noodles and bechamel.</div>
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So break up, boil, and add the noodles how I described above. Then remove the noodle/meat sauce mixture from heat and set it aside while you make the bechamel sauce.</div>
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First, what's bechamel sauce? </div>
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I used to make lasagna and top it with GIANT amounts of shredded cheese. Expensive and yummy. Then I decided to try bechamel sauce. It's a creamy cheesy yummy goodness sauce. I actually like it better than topping it with cheese, plus it's cheaper, more authentic, and is just rich and thick and gooey... mmmmm. </div>
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Melt one stick of butter and then add 1/3 cup of flour. Whisk together to make a roux, let it cook for about a minute, maybe two. Then slowly add 2 cups of whole milk, whisking the whole time. Also add 1/2 tsp salt and 1/4 tsp nutmeg. Yes, that's right, I said nutmeg. Trust me, it's good and doesn't end up tasting like nutmeg, it just gives it a background zing. </div>
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I love potatoes. But sometimes, you're just in the mood for something with a bit more variety. Still traditional and filling, but a bit different, and super yummy. </div>
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You'll get rave reviews with it, even my kids will eat it.</div>
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This is what you'll need... for a giant batch of it.</div>
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Last night I had a big family dinner, 11 adults and 8 kids. I made 2 <a href="http://fruitsnacksandfreezerjam.blogspot.com/2012/06/best-whole-chicken-in-crockpot-and.html" target="_blank">whole chickens in the crockpot</a>... I had to borrow an extra crockpot, and I made this as a side. It was awesome! But this is a lot! So I'm cutting the recipe down to 1/3 of what I made last night, so that it would be appropriately sized for a normal family dinner. </div>
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1/3 of a butternut squash, peeled seeded and chopped</div>
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1 tsp salt</div>
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Toss it to coat, and put in a baking pan. For this amount, probably just a cake pan should do it for yah and you can cover it with tinfoil. But for the full amount you see in the pictures... I used my roasting pan. Ha! I haven't used it in forever, because now I always do my chickens in the crockpot... but it has found a use again! </div>
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Cover and cook at 400 degrees for 1 hour. I usually stir it around at 40 minutes, just to make sure it's cooking evenly. And quite often I'll cook it for an extra 20 minutes to get the carrots nice and soft enough for my 1 year old to eat on her own... but I find that makes the rest, especially the squash, be really over cooked. My brilliant fix for that is to put the harder veggies at the bottom and the softer on top. So the beets go on bottom, then carrots, sweet potatoes, potatoes, and squash. (Still stir it around to mix it at 40 minutes.)</div>
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Look at how pretty!</div>
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More nutrients, more variety, more taste.</div>
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The only complaint I ever get is from my husband who misses all the extra butter I put in mashed potatoes. LOL. But he just adds it here and is plenty happy. </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-41180931993817784912013-01-23T21:43:00.001-08:002013-01-24T10:10:09.491-08:00Cream of Anything Soup Mix<div style="text-align: center;">
Yeah, so I'm allergic to a lot of things. A LOT of things. And it pretty much sucks. Do you know how hard it is to make a casserole when you can't have canned soup? </div>
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And then I found this recipe. </div>
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*Heaven!* </div>
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I found it on <a href="http://www.onegoodthingbyjillee.com/2012/03/soup-or-sauce-sos-mix.html" target="_blank">THIS</a> blog, and I have no idea where it originated.... er... originally. </div>
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But it is a life saver for me!</div>
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Also I must say, that even without all my food problems, I would still choose this over canned cream soup. First, it's pennies on the dollar compared to the canned stuff. So cheap to make! And it only has a few ingredients, so you know exactly what you're eating... no chemicals and stuff you can't pronounce. But most important to me, is the taste. I mean, being healthy and frugal is great and all, but if it tastes like cardboard then no thanks! But this is so good! Tastes SO MUCH BETTER than the canned soup. For serious. </div>
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Try it out.</div>
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You won't regret it.</div>
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(Also, if you're into emergency preparedness and food storage, this is an AWESOME thing to plan on having. All the ingredients can easily be found in a long term storage package.)</div>
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2 cups powdered milk</div>
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3/4 cup cornstarch</div>
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1/4 cup chicken bouillon granules</div>
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Mix it together and store in a plastic or glass container. </div>
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1 1/4 cup cold water</div>
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Whisk it together over medium-high heat until it thickens. The key is to use cold water, so that the cornstarch will dissolve all the way before you even turn on the stovetop. Then just keep whisking (to keep the other ingredients from falling to the bottom of the pan and burning), just like you're making gravy. You don't want lumps, so whisk away. The longer/hotter you cook it, the thicker it will get. </div>
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Substitute that amount of mix for one 10 3/4oz can of condensed soup in recipes. Or you can eat it straight, just how it is. Delicious! Only, don't thicken it so much if you're just eating it. You don't want goo. </div>
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So I just use my own <a href="http://fruitsnacksandfreezerjam.blogspot.com/2013/01/italian-seasoning-and-salad-dressing.html" target="_blank">Italian seasoning</a> when making this. But you could also buy the little packets. In fact, you don't officially have to add the spice at all, it just makes it better. </div>
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But that's the beauty of this recipe. You can make it however you want it. </div>
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Want cream of potato soup? Add potatoes and different spices. Want cheese soup? Add some grated cheese (I love sharp cheddar!) while you're whisking away until it incorporates with the soup. Want a sauce for salisbury steak? Use beef bouillon granules instead of chicken, or just add some worcestershire sauce and smoke flavoring.</div>
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Try it out, you won't be sorry...</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-51777687574326548542012-09-17T08:33:00.000-07:002015-02-03T09:57:05.929-08:00Roasted Red Bell Pepper Soup Recipe<div style="text-align: center;">
We had a very nice weekend with family in town to visit. I ate myself silly. Mmmmm. And that means that I'll be starting my diet again <strike>today</strike> tomorrow. First, I *have to* eat all the rest of the junk food that's still here so it won't be around to tempt me on my diet. :) </div>
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I've noticed that A LOT of people are getting sick around here. Including us. My little guy is only just well enough today to return to school again. So I decided that I'd post a recipe of my favorite thing to make during cold and flu season. </div>
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Seriously this is the BEST thing in the world when you're sick. Move over chicken noodle! </div>
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Roasted Red Bell Pepper Soup</div>
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6-8 red bell peppers</div>
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1 large onion, chopped</div>
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3 celery stalks, chopped</div>
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3 cloves garlic, pressed</div>
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2 TBS thyme</div>
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2 TBS basil</div>
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1/2 tsp cayenne (or to taste, I always use at least twice this much)</div>
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2 tsp salt</div>
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1 can coconut milk (NOTE: Must be the kind in a can, not a carton. And don't get the lite/low fat version, it's nasty and this is just freakin coconut milk for heaven's sake.)<br />
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Cut peppers in half, remove seeds and stem. Score the inside with a fork (helps to cook faster).</div>
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While peppers are broiling, in a large soup pot, heat oil, onion, celery, thyme, basil, and salt. Cook until veggies are tender (10-12 minutes) stirring often. Add the garlic and cayenne for the last couple minutes of that. Then add the broth and allow to simmer for about 10 minutes. </div>
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Add the roasted/peeled peppers to the soup. Then you can either use an immersion blender to make it all smooth, OR you can do what I do, and just stick it in your upright blender. If you do it in your blender, it will fill it twice, so you'll need an "in between" pan so that unblended soup doesn't meet blended soup... because all of it needs to be nicely pureed.</div>
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I make TONS of this in the summer when I have lots of bell peppers growing in my garden, and when the store has halfway decent prices on them. Then I freeze it in pint sized freezer bags. It gets us through cold and flu season every year. Seriously, I can NOT survive a bad cold without this.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-45541046259707822032012-07-12T10:30:00.000-07:002015-02-24T11:49:22.168-08:00Fairy Tales and Special Effects<div style="text-align: center;">
This month's "assignment" for PAIL is to talk about our plans for the future, and whether or not to continue to try and have more children, and why we choose what we choose, and all that stuff. And honestly, in my mind, thinking about TTC is like watching a My.ster.y Sci.en.ce The.at.ter 3.00.0 episode. </div>
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The whole world of prospective parents is watching this "amazing" film. Fairy tales like being able to time your pregnancy, spacing children, and live happily ever after are flashing on the screen... and surely somewhere, someone is buying the special effects? </div>
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But not me. Not IFers.</div>
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We sit in the back of the theater making pejorative and sarcastic comments... occassionally throwing popcorn at the screen, and talking about how naive and gullible the rest of the audience is for not seeing through the special effects.... and knowing that for them, it isn't special effects and fairy tales, it's reality.</div>
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Laughing at the show, because crying sucks.</div>
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So, having said that, what do I think about the movie and how seriously am I taking it?</div>
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Well dang. I take it pretty seriously. And despite all my best efforts, I still believe it "could be true." I still want the happily ever after. I still want to think that it could be possible for me to have as many children as I desire. But alas, I've been in the theater too long and my eggs...er, popcorn... has gone stale.</div>
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So, my stats.... I have PCOS and repeated miscarriages/high risk pregnancy and Hashimoto's and who knows what else... seriously, they can't decide or figure it out. I am 36, so officially "advanced maternal age" and I have been MIRACULOUSLY blessed with 2 children already. But I hear the clock ticking. </div>
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I'm from a family with 6 kids. My mom's family had... crap I can't remember... 11? I think? Maybe 10? I guess I could try to count them, but I'd surely forget one of them anyway, so why bother. And each of her siblings had a billion kids too. So when we had family reunions, we were a crazy spectacle. Think of it... 10ish uncles/aunts with their spouse, and 10-13 kids per family, all of the older ones already married and popping out babies like they were skittles, and even some third generation babies running around. Literally hundreds of cousins. (No, there is NO polygamy. LOL.) I haven't even met all of them, and I'm certainly not close to any of them. My dad's side of the family averages 6 kids per family... which is smaller, but still not a small family. <br />
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Growing up, and in early adulthood, I had absolutely NO DOUBT that I would have as many kids as my body was willing to pop out. I was thinking in the area of 8. <br />
Ha! <br />
*throws popcorn at the screen*<br />
And spacing? I figured they'd be about 2 years apart BECAUSE that would give me time to breastfeed all of them for a full year, and then immediately get pregnant again and start over. <br />
Wait! What? My body can't make babies OR breastmilk? <br />
Huh.<br />
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So here I am at 36, in my last few years of even being able to pretend that it could still be possible to have more children.... and what do I dream of??? <br />
Four kids.<br />
Two more... just two more. <br />
Maybe twins, because then it's only hoping for one more successful pregnancy and that seems more realistic than expecting to survive 2 more rounds of TTC.<br />
And if I somehow got my 2 more kids, what then?... I'd still want more. I'm sure of it. I would continue to try and try until my ovaries dried up and my uterus fell out... just plop, right there on the floor. That would be about the only thing that would stop me from hoping.<br />
But honestly, I think 2 more is all I can even hope for... and even that is really wishing for a lot... but it's still my "goal" or my "vision" or whatever term you want to use.<br />
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Because of all my health problems and the extremes I have taken to trying fix them... I won't be doing anymore fertility treatments. My body really does NOT handle those well, and I've spent literally thousands of dollars just trying to get my health back to where it was before starting all of that. And I can't go backward, because I have 2 amazing children who need a healthy mommy to take care of them. So if I'm going to have more children (please please please) it will be up to the old fairy tale of "you can have a baby just by having sex at the right time." <br />
Hahaha.<br />
I know! Can you believe that?<br />
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So right now I'm back to charting and temping... not that my chart makes ANY SENSE. Nobody can discern any type of a pattern, and almost daily my charting service changes when it thinks I ovulated. So it's pretty useless. For instance, right now I'm on CD62, and it thinks I'm 10dpo, but the ovulation date will undoubtedly change again tomorrow. BUT it does keep me from spending a gazillion dollars on HPTs. When I get pregnant, my temps normalize. They go up and stay up. So as long as my body is freaking out and weird, and my temps are all over the place... I know I'm not pregnant. I may not know when/if I ovulated, or when/if AFV is coming... but I do know not to POAS. And that saves me a little money and peace of mind. <br />
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So, making a long story even longer... Yes I am TTC. Yes, I am charting and temping... and BD often. (Yay! A silver lining!) No, I don't have the luxury of worrying about "spacing" the kids for optimal whatever. No, I don't have the luxury of waiting until I think I'm emotionally ready to face all this again. Truth is, I'm out of time. If it's going to happen at all, it needs to happen soon. And I don't have any time to waste. So I'm going through the motions (hump hump hump. LOL. did I just say that?) but my heart isn't really in it. I am TTC in denial. Meaning, I'm doing everything that I can/should be doing to TTC... but I'm ignoring the fact that I'm doing it. I'm pretending to myself that I'm not really TTC. That way I'm hoping to not go crazy. To not get hurt. So that maybe I'll just wake up one morning, POAS, and have a happy ending... and wonder how I got there.<br />
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Popcorn anyone?</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-7223819770094783292012-06-09T17:48:00.002-07:002013-01-29T16:40:01.256-08:00The BEST Whole Chicken in a Crockpot... and Broth<div style="text-align: center;">
Okay seriously, this is FREAKING AMAZING. I usually make whole chickens in the oven, but I saw this recipe <a href="http://www.100daysofrealfood.com/" target="_blank">HERE</a> and decided to give it a try... SO GLAD I DID!!! So easy and so good!</div>
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Of course, I had to change the recipe a little, but nowhere near what I usually do. </div>
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#1- Roughly chop 1 large white onion and place on the bottom of crockpot.</div>
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#2- Take a 3-4 pound whole chicken... remove all the yucky crap from inside (giblets, neck, liver, etc)... rinse it, pat it dry with a paper towel...</div>
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#3- Rub the seasoning mix (below) all over it... inside and out, on top of the skin and under the skin.<br />
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#6- Eat.<br />
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The spice/rub mixture is pretty straight forward... I kind of "heaped" all the measurements cause I like flavor. :)</div>
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The ingredients are pretty flexible... whatever spices you have on hand, or that you know you like. I added a few things that I LOVE with chicken, but that she didn't have listed. But it's a good basic starting point. And SERIOUSLY, you don't need to add any liquid at all. I got nervous about 3 hours in and added some water, and I totally didn't need to!!!</div>
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I don't have any pictures of nicely sliced chicken because it can't be sliced. It just falls right off the bone. I do, however, have one picture of the left over chicken in tupperware, which I only barely remembered to take. I was too hungry to remember to take any pretty "on plate" pictures. <br />
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If you're looking for a good side dish to go with this dinner. Check out my <a href="http://fruitsnacksandfreezerjam.blogspot.com/2013/01/rosemary-roasted-root-veggies.html" target="_blank">Rosemary Roasted Root Vegetables</a>. It's my go to... filling and yummy, and just a little different so it doesn't get boring. </div>
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So you have all the bones and skin and fat and junk in the crockpot. Now just fill it with water, and leave it cooking on "low" all night. <br />
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It made so much broth that I was able to make a GIANT pot of chicken soup (which is already gone, thank you) and still had almost 2 cups of broth left over, which I froze for later use. I usually get about 4 quarts of broth every time I do this, but I think that is just because of the size of my crockpot. I'm sure it varies with the size of your crockpot.<br />
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Hope you enjoy it as much as I did!!! :)</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-6088703985282008822012-05-20T14:17:00.000-07:002015-02-24T11:48:39.734-08:00Sunday Edition: Faith, Hope, and Charity<div style="text-align: center;">
I've already written a little bit about this, particularly about <a href="http://fruitsnacksandfreezerjam.blogspot.com/2012/02/gift-of-infertility.html" target="_blank">HOPE</a>. Then a few weeks ago at church we had a lesson all about hope. I said a few things that were straight from that post... but I also realized a few things I hadn't ever quite figured out before. So you can read that link first, if you want, to know where I'm coming from here... or you can just plunge ahead... or even click off my blog. LOL.</div>
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It was while we were talking in church about faith and charity that I realized something new about hope. I've always known that faith means that you believe in God, and you believe He can do what He says. And charity is about having love for others. But hope is more difficult to define. I've always just thought of it as the ability to keep going, that forward thrust and soft resilience to push through difficulties.The proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel." But then someone commented that real hope is based in a knowledge of who you are as a child of God, who you are in relation to God.</div>
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"The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together." -Romans 8:16-17</div>
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And when I heard that, something clicked into place for me. Faith is toward God... belief in Him, believing Him, trusting Him. Charity is toward our "fellow men" ... loving them, helping them, forgiving them. And Hope... Hope is toward ourselves. Believing, not just that God "can" do it, but that he "will" do it... FOR YOU. Hope is toward yourself... loving yourself, believing that your best is good enough, forgiving yourself when you fall, and holding onto the understanding that God will work miracles in YOUR behalf. That all the promises He has given, that they apply to YOU. <br />
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Even when things are hard. Even when things go wrong. Because "we know that all things work together for good to them that love God.... What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?" -Romans 8:28, 31</div>
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Faith, Hope, and Charity are commonly seen together. They strengthen and build each other, and it is difficult to have one without the other two. All three are about relationships... your relationships with God, with yourself, and with others. I think that we, or perhaps just I, tend to focus outward. Charity and Faith are focused on others, they are outward. But we also have need to clean the "inner vessel."</div>
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I guess that's how I feel about Hope. I put a much higher priority on Faith and Charity... my relationships with God and with other people... than I do on Hope. I just figure that if I do my best, then Hope will magically appear one day. But if I neglect hope, then hope will neglect me. Most of the time, my missing ingredient is Hope. </div>
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I'm still struggling a bit to "define" Hope. It is definitely about your relationship with yourself... but it is also about God's relationship with you. Perhaps Faith is how you feel about God, and Hope is how He feels about you... or how you think He feels about you??? </div>
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And for me, I think that Hope centers a lot on Grace. Accepting His Grace and Mercy. Allowing Him to take my burdens. Believing in Him (faith), and doing good works (charity), and then feeling a quiet confidence that my best... while far from perfect... will be perfected in His perfection... and my best will somehow be enough. That's hope. That's grace... Believing that I, not just anyone and everyone, but I...</div>
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"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." -Philippians 4:13 </div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-10074157050419804952012-02-27T08:55:00.001-08:002015-02-24T11:48:09.971-08:00The Gift of Infertility<div style="text-align: center;">
I've been thinking lately. Infertility and pregnancy loss are hard. So hard. But looking back, they have also been a blessing. I know that is so strange, and possibly offensive, but let me explain.</div>
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I hope I can find the right words to tell you what I'm feeling in my heart.</div>
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Infertility and loss (IF for short) are difficult in a million ways that no one would ever expect... unless they've been through it. It touches every part of your life, your soul, your identity as a woman. It puts a barrier between you and your "normal" fertile friends/family, largely because they UNKNOWINGLY say/do things that are SO hurtful, invalidating, and just plain make you feel like you've been slapped in the face. I know that they don't mean to, I know that they are only trying to help... but the effect is still that IF is isolating.</div>
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But the thing is, I've been thinking. And IF has really and truly blessed me so much. It has made me strong. It has made me be aware of the pain that others feel. It has given me compassion on a level that I had never believed possible. I feel such a sense of connection with almost anyone who struggles with IF. I have sat in front of my computer and sobbed over a stranger's pregnancy loss, and prayed with all my might that they would *somehow* find some peace and healing. Most recently <a href="http://mommyodyssey.wordpress.com/2012/02/22/nadav/" target="_blank">Mo</a> and <a href="http://www.builtinbirthcontrol.com/" target="_blank">BIBC</a>. Oh how my heart aches for you both.</div>
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But it's more than that. IF has blessed me in ways that I never thought possible. In fact, some of the things that are the MOST difficult about IF have impossibly become strengths in my life. Isn't it funny... But it's just like they say, God can turn any weakness into strength if you let Him. And "rock bottom is the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life." (JK Rowling)</div>
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One of the most PAINFUL things about IF is the perma-hope that it takes to keep going. Every month you try, and you believe, and you hope... and you hurt... and you get back up and do it again the next month. How was I "stupid" enough to believe EVERY month that THIS time was going to be different? It gets to be so painful that I used to wish that I could just stop hoping, because then I thought it might not hurt so much. </div>
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It's so hard to put into words. But I think I started to realize it while I was taking care of my dad last year... in the final days of his struggle with cancer. I knew he was going to die. I knew he was. There was no hope. Lung and liver failure coupled with esophageal cancer. It was a very dark time. And do you know what kept me going? That same blasted perma-hope that had been SO painful during IF. I knew that dad was dying. But I also knew that I could still find light at the end of the tunnel. I knew that I would always have "next month" to look forward to. Something to hope for. A goal to reach for. A constant forward thrust deep inside me that has been so strengthened by years of IF that I knew I would never be able to give up. IF has taught me how to push forward and hold my head up and to HOPE.</div>
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Hope and faith are my good friends, and they have very little to do with getting what you want. They are quiet and steady companions, constantly whispering that everything will be all right even if... especially if... things go wrong.</div>
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And the strength to carry on alone, to pursue my own path regardless of what anyone else says or feels about it. To follow my heart. There are many people who try to "help" an IFer by telling them things like "just relax and it will happen" or "maybe you should just give up now" or "why don't you try x,y,or z?" It becomes so painful. It makes you feel so alone and misunderstood. BUT it makes you strong. It makes you stand on your own feet, and follow your own heart. You can't survive for long in the world of IF when you're doing what other people expect of you. This has definitely become a strength for me, possibly a bit too strong in this area now, ha! But I'm realizing that I really need this strength right now in my life.</div>
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I'm about to start an "alternative" treatment for my "incurable" disease. It's expensive. The program is long and difficult to complete. There is no guarantee that it will work. And many, many people have tried... in every way possible... to dissuade me... to convince me that it's a huge mistake. And really, it might be... but just like my path through IF, it's a path that I have to take, and I have to do what I feel is best. It will be a long, hard, lonely road. But I hope at the end of it, it will be worth it. And I know that if I hadn't struggled for years with IF, with the lonliness and isolation that is IF, I might not have had the strength needed to push through this next path alone.</div>
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There are many other things which IF has taught me. Because it does affect every area of your life, it also teaches you something in every area of your life. I hate IF. I hate wondering if I'll have more children, or how many more miscarriages I'll have to suffer through. I hate knowing that because I STILL want more children that there WILL be more pain ahead. Immense pain. But I am coming to realize that IF isn't my enemy. God didn't send me to earth to have an easy go of it, He sent me here to learn and grow and stretch. I no longer think of IF as the enemy, but as the very strict teacher... possibly whacking your fingers with a ruler.... possibly it's Severus Snape. I don't like the class, I'm a bit afraid of the teacher, I'd much rather be out playing on the monkey bars... but the things I learn in that classroom change my life. I wouldn't wish infertility/loss on anyone... besides, I'm sure that everyone has their very own class with Snape, and all of them suck... but I have come to realize how very grateful I am for IF and the lessons it has taught me... </div>
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I wouldn't be who I am if I hadn't had to struggle with IF.</div>
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For that, I am grateful.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-818722817825243672011-11-22T08:09:00.001-08:002015-02-24T11:47:40.340-08:00Grateful For Trials<div style="text-align: center;">
I wanted to do a post about gratitude, since it's Thanksgiving and all, but I didn't want it to be normal post that anyone/everyone could write... I wanted something more personal/meaningful to me as an individual. So here goes...</div>
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At church a few weeks ago we had a lesson about gratitude that got most of us thinking. There are so many things to be grateful for, such as:</div>
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I am grateful for being so tired I can't see straight, because it means I have a BABY.</div>
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Anyway, you get the idea. It was very inspiring. I don't much talk about the happy things in my life. It's not that I'm a negative person, although it might seem that way... it's really because of a couple things combined. First, I'm superstitious (sp?). You know how some people "knock on wood?" Well, I just don't chance it at all. If I speak out loud that something is going well, it's sure to fall apart immediately. And seriously, who needs that? LOL. Might sound silly, but I honestly feel that way. And conversely, if I complain about something being bad, it's not only cathartic but it also means that it should get better... right? *Okay, I seriously need therapy.* Haha. </div>
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While those are two small reasons, I also have two big reasons. First of all, most people hold their griefs and sorrows inside and show a mask of false happiness. That usually means they are too ashamed/afraid/whatever of sharing their pain. I am just the opposite. I refuse to feel ashamed of my hardships and trials. They are something which I experience, not something that I AM. They are not part of my identity. I can stand in the rainstorm and get soaked to the bone, but I am NOT the rain itself. Eventually I will dry off and it will be just another experience that I went through. I don't let my pains define me. Also, sharing your struggles almost always opens the door for someone else to share theirs with you, someone who might have otherwise suffered in silence... and because I share my pain, they share theirs, and both of us gain support. I consciously make an effort to be open about my trials in order to open that door to others. BUT my joys and happiness are extremely personal to me. I hold onto them down deep in my soul, and I do not like to share them with others very much. They are too personal and sacred to me for that. Still I often wonder if all this makes me seem ungrateful. I am not. But I digress.</div>
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I am grateful that I have trials and hardships, because they make me turn to and rely on my Savior.</div>
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I am grateful for a heavy load, because trying to lift it makes me stronger.</div>
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I am grateful for tears, because they cleanse the soul.</div>
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I am grateful for mastitis, because it means that I was able to breastfeed for a while.</div>
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I am grateful for difficulties in my marriage, because working through them makes our marriage stronger.</div>
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I am grateful for the pain of death, because it means that I have love in my life.</div>
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"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:13. Even more profound for me on this subject is Romans, chapter 8. Go and read it, it's too long for me to type here. :)</div>
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Be grateful for all that you have... joys and pains, because they go hand in hand.</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7546359130714121596.post-8609564156045882962011-02-14T08:39:00.000-08:002015-02-24T11:45:36.284-08:00Beauty<div align="center">
I've never had much of a self image problem. I mean, I was a horrible nerd growing up, seriously a big big nerd. But I liked me. It used to be so hard for me to understand why people couldn't just accept themselves. I mean, who cares what anyone else thinks, right? Then my body had a civil war.</div>
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I know that I've talked about this a bit before, and it's not the point of the post, so basically... After a full year of being misdiagnosed, and being treated like a lazy fat cow by medical "professionals," I finally had a doctor actually listen to me... and discover my that my thyroid was killing itself. Being on medication has stabilized my weight.... But in that year of unchecked thyroid craziness, I gained a full 100 pounds. And I just can't seem to lose it. I've tried and tried. It's just not budging.</div>
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I don't know if anyone else knows what that's like exactly. Next time you go to the store, pick up 2 pair of jeans. A size 10 and a size 24. Hold them up next to each other and appreciate the difference. I was a size 10 at the beginning of the year, and a size 24 by the end. I feel like I'm stuck in a fat suit and can't get out. This isn't my body, is it?</div>
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It's been about 3 years since the big fat event, and sometimes I can actually like myself when I look in the mirror. At least I can think I kind of look cute, or not so bad... as long as I'm alone... as long as no one is there to tell me otherwise. But inevitably, on those "good" days, some "helpful" well meaning person will say or do something that cuts me so deeply that I remember why I hate what's looking back at me in the mirror. I mean, why even try to look nice when the best you can look is just "good enough." I never feel pretty anymore. I never think I look nice. No matter how cute the clothes, no matter how much make up, I'm always in there looking fat and ugly. You can only do so much, and most days I just roll my eyes and say "this is just how I look now... this is as good as it gets." </div>
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I guess I'm thinking about this today because of some helpful comments from close friends and family. You know the kind. You love them and they are wonderful people, but they just don't understand. People who are disappointed in me for being pregnant because it means I can't continue to diet... and those who think that pregnancy makes no difference, I'm so fat I should diet anyway and surely the baby will have ample fat storage to live off of for 9 months. Nevermind that it would be seriously harmful for the baby, they are sure that I'm fat enough that it wouldn't matter. I have now lost a full 10 pounds to morning sickness. I guess I just expect people to feel sorry for me, or even slightly concerned, or maybe just to smile knowingly and say something encouraging or meaningless. But not to say they are "so proud" of me for being able to lose the weight, and to encourage me to "keep it up."</div>
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I get it. I'm fat. I need to lose weight. But I am more than just fat. I am loving. I am funny, or at least I think I am. I am a mother who sacrifices every day to do the best I can for my child. There is so much more to me than the fat. There is so much more to being beautiful than looking nice, or being at a certain body fat percentage, or fitting into the right clothes. When I'm around people, I hear so much negative about myself. SO MUCH. I wonder what they hope to gain by saying such things. Do they really think I don't know I'm fat? Do they really think that saying those things will HELP me lose weight? Don't you think I could at least get a break during pregnancy? I can't wait until I'm far enough along that people will think I have a pregnant belly, not just a fat one.</div>
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But when I'm alone, I hear another voice, deep inside me. It speaks of real beauty and real worth. I remember how beautiful my grandmother was, and how nice it was to get a soft hug from a pillowy person. She was beautiful, even if she was a little "soft." She was beautiful because she loved. She sacrificed and worked and loved. You felt better just being around her. It didn't matter if she had done her hair, or changed out of that ugly dressing gown, she was just beautiful. She was real. She was warm. She was soft and overweight and loving and PERFECT. </div>
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Those women in the magazine that are so "perfect" and "beautiful" seem so cold. There's no warmth coming from them. Their eyes are glassy. (I'm not saying they're bad people. I don't know them and probably some of them are beautiful inside as well, but that isn't what's being advertised.) I don't want to be like that. I want to be real and warm and soft. I want to be beautiful because of who I am and what I do, not because of how much I've starved myself or how much I've spent on my clothes.</div>
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Losing weight would be great, and I'm not saying that I won't try to be healthier. But it is not the most important thing in the world. I guess I feel like I just want to be happy and content... grateful for what I do have, not constantly berating myself for not having, or being, something different.... and I'm just wishing that other people could want that for me too... or at least shut up about what THEY want for MY life. I can accept that I'm overweight. I can be okay with it. I can like myself and move on with my life. I can do good things, and be a good person. I can love and be beautiful because of who I am. I can look in the mirror and see someone who is hugely blessed with a body that works, that walks, that thinks... that makes babies!!! I can feel beautiful because when my little boy looks at me, all he sees is someone who loves him. And that's really what beauty is all about...</div>
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